FAMILY BED FAQ

 

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  • Where did you first learn of the family bed?

     

    • Child care books ~Donya
    • I learned about FB in college in child development classes. ~Laura
    • I don't remember! I just remember having Joshua in bed with us because it was more convenient.  ~Jennifer
    • A friend mentioned Tine Thevenin's book when Alex was about a year and a half old. I didn't realize this had a name! :)  ~Sue
    • By accident.  ~Maria
    • From reading some book I got from La Leche League. Maybe even The LLL book. ~Linda
    • My nephew slept with my sister. I learned of it "formally" by watching Desmond Morris' "The Human Animal" on TLC while I was pregnant with my son. ~Terri
    • I picked up a copy of Tine Thenevin's book "the family bed."  ~Diana
    • I'd read references to it in all my pregnancy books but only in negative terms. Of course this made me more curious! Then, it was an interesting comment on the sah-ap mailing list that convinced me that even if she liked the crib, it was important that we make an effort to have her sleep with us anyway, because it is healthier for her in the long run. And, you know, what I found so important is that human touch. 
      ~Anne
    • I didn't officially learn about the family bed until my daughter had already been sleeping with me for 3 months. I think that was around the time I discovered Dr. Sears and The Baby Book.  ~Melissa
    • A friend of mine told me about having your baby in bed with you, then we read more about it in Sears' "The Baby Book."  ~Lisa
    • From LLL. I attended meetings in the last trimester of my pregnancy and *everyone* was doing fb.  ~Kathy
    • From reading "The Baby Book" by Dr. William Sears. I was pregnant with my first child at the time and thought it was a fantastic idea! ~anon-1
    • In college anthropology I learned that in many, perhaps even in most cultures, babies simply sleep with their mothers. The question of "where will the baby sleep" is simply one that is not ever asked in most of the world. the baby will sleep with it's mother. Hearing this felt very right to the core of my being, and I knew from that point on that my babies and children would sleep with me until they developed a different preference. ~Katherine
    • I was family bedded for a VERY long time as a child, but the first time I heard of The Family Bed as a *concept* was when I was reading up on parenting styles while I was pregnant. I found an article by Dr. Sears on "What is Attachment Parenting" that someone posted on misc.kids.parenting and it really resonated with me. ~Jennifer
    • Tine Thevenin's _The Family Bed_ ~Suzanne
    • when i was pregnant. i was reading "the baby book" and the other more mainstream stuff, and it came up. ~Rachel
    • From a coworker. I was childless and thought she was (1) crazy and (2) a bit immature to not be able to bear her children sleeping on their own. Ah, how hard the scornful fall! ~Shannon
    • I didn't hear the term 'family bed' until my 8th month of pregnancy in Dr Sears' Baby Book. But I knew a family about 10 years before with a room that was wall to wall mattress where the whole family flopped down at night like a heap of kittens. I was so charmed by this that from then on I always knew I would sleep with my kids (just one kid right now) until they wanted their own beds. ~Therese
    • We kind of fell into ourselves. We had our first daughter in our bedroom when she was born. She was in the crib and my husband would bring her to me when she awakened and he (in theory) would return her when she went back to sleep. In practice she spent most of the night with us. With my second child, we still had a one bedroom apt. so she slept more with us than in the crib. LLL came to our town when she was five months old. Since then(12 years ago) We've had each successive child in our bed from the beginning. We got rid of the crib after number three. At the moiment, my seven month old and 2 1/2 almost three year old sleep with us in our bed. Our five year old joins us on the floor periodically. The older three are in their own beds. ~anon-2
    • I started sleeping with Rachel when she was three days old. I had never heard of the family bed at that point but it was the only way to get any sleep! I later read about co-sleeping on the web and in several parenting books. ~Kathy
    • I first learned about it from a friend of mine who family bedded with her kids. I was really captivated by how tuned in she was to her kids' needs (especially the baby!) That was something that I wanted to model when I became a mother. I later had the idea reinforced by Sears' books and then by my friends on SAH-AP. ~Elisa
    • When I was a kid (maybe 10?) someone was watching Oprah and the author of "The Family Bed" was discussing it with some psychologist who was TOTALLY against it. As a kid, I thought it sounded like a good idea, but it seemed the psychologist was pretty serious about the "dangers" of this. :) At least, he talked the loudest and overpowered the woman. This having faded from my mind, as a teacher I was shocked and freaked out that some of my "parents" were cosleeping with their 3&4 year olds! Gasp! Horrors. Then I got pregnant and read Our Babies, Ourselves, and realized how I wanted to parent... including having a family bed. Or more importantly, not isolating my baby from the family forcefully. ~Vaiva
    • I didn't realize it was an official term until #1 was an older toddler and I started reading "Compleat Mother" -- I started sleeping with him when he was about a week old, mostly out of desperation and laziness. ;) It was the only way we could both get any sleep at night. ~Sue
    • I slept off and on in my Mother's bed (although not when I was an infant, I'm sure), and later on had a friend who slept with her infant from the beginning. ~Michel
    • May have read of it in the LLL handbook, but the idea didn't really sink in at the time. ~Anne B
    • On Sah-ap when M was 18 months old. ~Wendy

 

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